He says, “It’s harder to find that because a lot of women still play games.” Now his mindset is: “If it happens, it happens.”Ventura, Calif.-based dating coach Dr.
Aesha Adams-Roberts has heard all of these concerns in dealing with her clients, mostly professional black women.“It feels like men in their 40s and women in their 40s have a hard time connecting with each other and finding each other,” she said.
She says that we have to unlearn cultural lessons that have been reinforced through our lives — such as the idea that love comes to us.“I believe, culturally, we’ve been taught from all the Disney movies, all the chick flicks (even in ‘Girls Trip’), the woman ends up with a man, and she didn’t have to do anything,” Adams-Roberts said.
“We’ve been taught that we don’t have to do anything. So it feels weird to have to put in effort.” But when finding love is a priority, strategic effort is needed, she said.
I am a businessman so it has always been a struggle for me to be away from my phone, nevertheless, while on dates I usually keep it on silent or shut it off completely.
It indeed is irritating being on a date with someone who can’t keep their eyes off the phone or even worse, answering the calls right there during the date.
I know it hurts, and I am not going to lie, at some point t discouraged and stopped using dating for a couple of weeks after a few women rejected me.
Still, race can color dating experiences in minute and major ways.
In many ways, the mechanics of dating are universal, regardless of whether you’re black, white, brown or “a colorless person,” as Raven-Symone famously described herself to Oprah in a 2014 interview.
You have to realize that there could be millions of reasons why they rejected you and for all we know, it could be nothing to do with you at all.
So, stop writing yet another message or sending question marks.