He will also discuss with you any special circumstances (such as mental illness, lack of financial support, or pregnancy) that might require additional pastoral care, and possibly professional counseling. " as well as the links below for details on impediments to marriage and special circumstances.Once it has been determined that you are able to be married in the Church, you will probably be able to set a date for your wedding.Most parishes charge a fee to recover some of this expense; others simply accept a voluntary contribution.Fees for members of the parish commonly range from 0-0.In some places, you may be asked to provide recently issued certificates indicating that you have received your first Eucharist and the sacrament of confirmation.These sacraments are necessary for complete initiation into the Catholic Church.In some places, though, the wedding date remains tentative until you have completed a marriage preparation program.Your parish will spend a considerable amount of time and money helping you prepare for your marriage.
Before anything else can happen—including setting the wedding date—you will have a face-to-face interview as a couple with your pastor (or the priest or deacon who will witness your marriage).All eligible persons have a right to receive the sacrament of marriage, regardless of ability to pay a fee.You should expect to provide some paperwork in the months leading up to the wedding.Sometimes a higher fee is charged to people who are not members of the parish.Even if a fee is not specified, it is customary to offer a monetary gift. One way would be to consult the websites of parishes in your area to see whether they charge a fee, and make the gift to your parish a similar amount.Another way would be to tithe a percentage of what you expect to spend on the whole wedding.Or offer as much as you choose to spend on more "optional" elements of the wedding, such as the cost of photography or wedding clothes.If your parish website doesn't provide much information, try looking up the marriage policies and guidelines provided by the diocese in which you live.(See "Other Websites" below for a directory of dioceses in the United States).The interview is a time for you to get to know him, and vice versa.Besides some informal "getting to know you" questions, he will also ask some standard questions to determine whether there are any to your marriage—that is, an issue (such as a previous marriage) that must be resolved before you can be married in the Church.