Women will easily sense your lack of confidence and that will be the end of it.Many men just accept that they are horrible at dating women.A guy may love 6 of your photos, but if that 7th picture makes him wonder just how attracted to you he actually is, he will likely move on to the next profile.A few common red flags include; giving off negative energy, appearing needy, appearing desperate, having over sexualized pictures, coming across as high- maintenance, seeming closed-minded, etc. This statement is not only baiting a man into messaging you about his favorite books, but is also setting up the opportunity for some really interesting conversation based upon a shared love of reading.
what features their potential dates are attracted to.
If you’re a gay man, pose outdoors—48 percent of the profile pics of the most popular gay men on Ok Cupid were snapped outside. ) Selfies are acceptable for women (45 percent of top-ranking straight women used them, as did 4 percent of lesbians), but not so much for men.
Enroll in a yoga class and learn to surf—they’re the most popular activities for men and women alike, so either desirable singles are super mellow or it’s aspirational, and everyone to be mellow.
We even scoured the top 400 most popular Ok Cupid profiles—the hottest people on the site in ten US cities—to see what their profile pics could tell the rest of us about attracting a date.
We couldn’t have done any of this without the help of the data maestros at Match and Ok Cupid: Christian Rudder, cofounder and president of Ok Cupid, and Jim Talbott, director of consumer insights at