This doesn’t always turn to be the case; no matter how much phone or email chemistry you share. Not a single spark.) Secondly, when you meet someone online, it’s easier for your imagination to get carried away by that heady mixture of excitement and hope.(I once exchanged emails with someone for months and then flew internationally to meet him. It’s easier to idealize someone – to imagine that they possess all sorts of exceptional qualities and traits, and that they would make an ideal partner.This dynamic can happen during the early stages of any romantic relationship, but when you meet online you have to navigate additional pitfalls, as well.For starters, when you are interested in someone you meet online, you can assume that there will be good in-person chemistry.What people do to earn a living tells you a lot about them.It can clue you in on what they’ve studied (or not studied), what they find interesting (or whether they’re trapped in a dead-end job they loathe), and what they spend a good chunk of every day doing and thinking about.
This is especially important when you meet online across distance.
But don’t stop at just asking them what they do and then make assumptions what they think and feel about what they do. Ask them what they love about what do, and what they find a drag about their studies or their job.
Ask them where they see themselves in the future, or what their other hopes, dreams, and plans are.
Whether we like it or not, our family experiences have played a large role in shaping us in all sorts of ways – our likes and dislikes, our approach to communication and conflict, and what we instinctively consider to be “normal”.
Early on in any new relationship, it’s wise to get a sense of how someone thinks about (and relates to) their parents and siblings.