But somewhere your relationship is lacking in either Connection or Respect.
(2) Begin to create immediate physical and emotional distance. Once a guy has a fixed opinion of you, it’s very difficult to change it.He never wants a proper date and every time you bring up any relationship conversation he reminds you he’s “just having fun”.Let’s go back to our formula we just used: Real Attraction = Sexual Chemistry Connection Respect Now in this case, unlike the Friend Trap, the guy clearly has Sexual Chemistry with you.Is there a way to get out of these traps and still get into a relationship with the same guy? In the case of the Friend Trap: The preferred option should always be to put distance between you.You can still be nice to him, but you can also be totally honest and say “I have feelings for you, and need to put some distance between us in order to stay friends”.Moreover, you have to watch out for those guys who actually enjoy the validation of the Friend Trap and stay there on purpose, enjoying your attention but never really making their move.The Friends-With-Benefits Trap happens when you are having sex (or some sexual activity) with a guy, and although you want him to be your boyfriend he never wants to commit.It’s like being on a perpetual first date that’s going really well but the guy never goes in for the kiss, (even though he would totally score if he did! You can tell he loves being around you and hanging out, hell, he may even hug you now and then like a boyfriend, but he never initiates anything more physical. What’s more likely is that he loves being around you, and probably does even love your personality to some degree, but he has no sexual attraction. A lot of guys wish they felt sexual attraction for women they were great buddies with, because that would be the ideal scenario!Imagine the following simple formula for attraction: Real Attraction = Sexual Chemistry Connection Respect The guy can have all the Connection and Respect in the world for you, but without Sexual Chemistry, he’s not going to be able to feel true attraction for you. But neither he, nor you, nor anyone else can force sexual chemistry if he doesn’t feel it.” Within The Maybe Zone there are typically two big traps.There is the Friend Trap (commonly also dubbed ‘The Friend Zone’), and there is the Friends-With-Benefits Trap (sometimes called the ‘F-buddy’ Zone).