despite the fact that it can be a little stressful for us. We want to know we're good: that you're fucking loving it and that we, unremarkable as our daily lives may otherwise render us, are for this 5 to 120 minute period your own personal Sex God.
And the truth is that until you turn crazy, bitchy, or start to bore us (sorry) most of us would be thrilled to sex you up as often as our individual anatomies allowed, hourly when possible. We have all sorts of social and cultural sexual expectations to live up to, and we want to know that you think we satisfy them. The more you show approval, directly or indirectly, the more we want you, the more we have to have you, the more we crave the feeling of your body writhing beneath us or the taste of sweat on your skin.
whatever, it's not necessarily obvious and we don't usually make a big show of it, but the role is there, guiding the way we act. When you talk dirty to a guy (or girl), you're helping immerse him in the experience, you're using your words to make the roles believable.
These roles may or may not represent us in the rest of our lives, but while we're fucking they're simultaneously comfortable and exciting. Your mouths start moving and your brains stop thinking and the whole thing descends into a lust-fueled fluid-soaked pleasure-fest.
Just as we do in regular life, most of us slip into roles without even noticing.
We're the dom, the sub, the good girl, the bad boy, the dirty girl...
For you dominant girls there's an unfortunate lack of demeaning names to call guys, which is sad. Dominant Yeah, I have to agree with keruha here, "mister" sets a completely different mood than "master". "Master", on the other hand, would suggest that I have more power in our dynamic than I am actually comfortable with wielding: I'm not comfortable at this time with the master/slave dynamic, I don't want to "own" anyone and my aversion to the idea is extreme enough that I have not yet been able to reconcile it even in role-playing. Some guys will be really turned off by "mister", so use "master" if they're cool with that.
I have a graduate degree in engineering, a good job in a technical field, am physically active, a snappy dresser, and I'm a bit of a man-slut. It's the demographic I fall into and the general format for the type of guy that I have a good chance of representing: a young, sexually liberated, post-college professional.
When we're having sex we have an opportunity to shed all of the baggage of the world outside and lose ourselves in the intimacy of mutual pleasure with another human being, whether it's the most tender act of lovemaking or some hardcore BDSM shit with choking and slapping and clothespins.
In my humble opinion this shedding of daily baggage and immersion in the experience is what makes for sex.
I wrote the Dirty Talk 101 post about a month ago, and a fair number of people (like girl_with_questions) have asked for a guide for girls talking to guys. Thus, I have never talked dirty a guy, much less to a representative statistical sampling of guys, and consequently my only qualification for writing this guide is that I like it when chicks dig their nails into my back and growl nasty things in my ear.
I am a dude who has slept with a modest number of women, but zero guys.