It’s rude and it gives the impression that you don’t particularly care about the other person’s presence. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with. Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task.
Another exception: if there’s something really pressing, like, I don’t know, your sister is expected to go into labor any day now, inform your company that you may be checking your phone every so often. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.
I’m completely on board with the premise of this book. However, there was one fundamental theme of the book that I simply could not get on board with, a theme that repeated itself over and over again throughout the 250 pages.
The authors ask questions like, “Are you tired of guys texting you, but not asking you out? “Play hard to get- because being a challenge is the secret to getting a guy…Don’t speak to a man first, don’t ask him out, don’t accept last-minute dates, don’t see him too often and don’t date him forever!
Unless the person knows you really well, sarcasm is best avoided via text. If someone breaks rule number 4, don’t respond with just “k.” Unless you want to lose friends and alienate people. The same goes for the opposite case: if you’re composing novels to someone, and they’re texting you back with very short replies, take the hint. Everyone knows not to use texts to break up, or to communicate grave injuries.
You can’t read the tone nearly as well, and you could end up getting into arguments or hurting someone’s feelings. But you also shouldn’t try to get really deep into conversation with an acquaintance / stranger.
I recently had someone I barely know text me their life story, and it was more than a bit jarring. And even if you do that, you have to make it really obvious that it’s ironic, or else you’ll risk looking like an 4get this rule, b/c u will lose s0 much credibility rofl There are certain abbreviations that are generally accepted, but make sure you know the meaning of them.
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Respond to someone’s text in a kind and reasonably-timed manner.
If you really think it would be something better covered via phone call, text them asking them first.