In this video I discuss some common questions about dating and purity.
It is available in both You Tube and Facebook formats.
So there ought to be the growth of that desire, yet it ought to be kept under control until it can be consummated within the marriage relationship. Find an older couple, give them absolute freedom to ask you difficult questions, and then commit between the two of you, you will always ask, no answer honestly. Asking you those blunt questions, that will be tremendously, tremendously helpful.
Community is so helpful in appealing to other people. If you know there’s a couple you love and respect, who’ll be coming to you and saying, how are you guys doing? You can appeal to them, you can ask them for help, you can ask them for prayer.
Honestly, I don’t think it needs to be that difficult. How can a Christian couple keep themselves pure while dating?And somehow dating, pursuing marriage has become really, really difficult. Two people would indicate interest in one another, and in some way you’d start as friends, and at some point you’d ask the awkward question, and you’d go on a date, and you’d realize you’d have to have that question, that conversation too, hey, are we dating now, that kind of stuff. Somewhere along the way and probably Josh Harris has something to do with this, with , somehow it became really, really complicated.And then the patriarchy movement came along with this idea that you needed to do courtship, that that was the right way to date. So, as Christians, I think we just need to kind of break it down and make it simple again.In other words, look at his/her historical pattern of behavior before you met.Their love for you can drive them to “appear” to be more compatible than they really are.Ideally, you should desire to marry not just another Christian, but a vital Christian who will challenge you and help you grow in your faith.It is important to explore your positions on faith, theology, gender roles and doctrine, and then marry someone who is at a similar position in their faith and passions. The Word-of-God Question: Is the other’s life truly governed by God’s Word?So, how do you avoid committing sexual sin, how do you remain pure? So, until you’re actually married, then she becomes your wife and then you can relate to her as a wife, which includes, of course, a sexual relationship.Until that stage, you must treat her as a mother, treat her as a sister.In times of stress and difficulty in marriage, you want to have chosen a spouse who is obedient to God’s Word.This area of spiritual compatibility will become even more critical once you have children and need to agree on a standard by which to raise them.