A female friend of mine would only date men who lived a minimum of one hour away—she liked the anonymity.Call me a wimp, but I get exhausted just visualizing a two-hour drive home in the wee hours of the morning following a date.In my zeal to find out as much about Andy's good fortune as possible I innocently asked: "So, how'd you two meet? Realizing I stepped into something awkward I thought to myself: OMG they met in prison; or on a street corner.After a few seconds passed and all of our skin tones returned to a normal light pinkish color Carol responded: "Well, uh, we met online...that's right...online...the computer." Okay, so it was a pretty good impression of Annie Hall, but why all the fuss? Why are people embarrassed to admit they use this remarkable invention?There was a time when you had to send couriers from your castle to your mate's castle and wait a month or so for a response.In the not too distant past there was a time when you had to mail a letter and wait two or three days to hear something; there was a time when you had to get off your ass and drive somewhere. I know online dating is necessary in our crazy fast-paced world; I, too, think it beats the bar scene; and I know your friend the tax attorney may not be able to fix you up until tax season is over; just sayin: I knew there was something disturbing about the Jetsons.It was an admission that their own personal radiance wasn't enough to bring suitors flocking as they walked down the street. As a woman who lives in a rural town, dating sites offer me the opportunity to find men from the cultures that I find most appealing.
In the bar scene it's all about your looks; you don't have the luxury of putting your best picture out there because—you're out there—in the flesh.I just ran into my buddy Andy at a restaurant-—the kind of hip place you'd take a first date to impress her.Knowing he'd gone through a difficult divorce—one he didn't really want—I was pleased when he immediately introduced me to his new girlfriend, Carol. Andy and Carol turned to one another and began mumbling something indecipherable for what seemed to be an eternity.This makes sense in part, because men tend to be more visual.But I do have a friend who refuses to post a picture for professional reasons and he rarely gets any reponses.Most people I've interviewed prefer online dating to the bar scene because online dating offers a better chance of getting a first date.Post a reasonably attractive picture, sell your life's resume, and wait for the solicitations to pour in.Married 20 years and now unfortunately facing divorce, I'll try predictability and speed instead if I find myself single again.I prefer the "control over the romantic process" (as you phrase it) that the new technology gives us because I've found the process didn't work out well the first time, and I have no desire to wait until I'm retired for it to work again. There are no bad ways to find love, and no real reason to compare the bar versus the dating sites. Many people do not have the ability to be at places where they have the opportunity to meet the opposite sex.Silly guy, he actually didn't use online dating as a substitute for real dating; he used it to meet a nice girl and then date her for real! There are still human people on either end, you know.And if I have to read one more variation of the "now with just a few clicks of the mouse/keyboard, you can..." cliche, I'm going to take a sledgehammer to my temple.