These entrepreneurs may believe they have our best interests at heart, but they will never understand the stigma as well as someone who lives with it.
They do not listen to the needs and opinions of this community, and they take funding and attention away from real efforts to provide treatment and testing, and to de-stigmatize sexual health.
It’s time to talk about herpes dating websites and how much I hate them.
Not to mention these products are often cheap and tacky. Herpes dating apps rely on, profit from and contribute to the social stigma that I am absolutely against. Creating a dating app only for people with herpes feeds into the prejudice that people with STIs shouldn’t date people without STIs.I think most people who have had herpes for a few years know this too.The only people who ask me about herpes dating sites have just been diagnosed and are still daunted by the idea of disclosing—a fear I encourage them to tackle instead of pursuing these trap door dating sites.Which leads me to my next concern: these websites and apps are not created by people with STIs, or by people who are openly STI positive.Some of them bring on consultants in the sexual health world, but only after the fact, and by and large their founders do not come from our community.I would ignore these pop-ups as they inevitably fail, one after the other, except they .They reach out to me, share my posts and my talks on their social media platforms, and contact my fellow activists when I refuse to collaborate with them.Just because a product is built for women doesn’t make it feminist, and just because a product is built for people with STIs doesn’t mean it serves our causes. What we need is better sex education and health care, access to therapy and more representation. You can openly disclose which STD you have, and find women who are okay with that.One of the best dating websites for people living with STDs is Positive Singles.