However, most women did not date when they were younger, they simply fell into the relationships. Lisa: They’re missing the tools and the skills needed for over 50 dating.
That’s what I teach women—the tools and skills—because it is a learned factor.
We all want to be dating George Clooney, who, by the way, doesn’t really like long term relationships.
This is typical of the over-fifty age group, though.
Could you tell us about some of the misconceptions that we might have about the dating game right now?
We don’t have to dumb down, nor should we be doormats. In the very beginning, one of our goals in this community is to become independent. It doesn’t mean that we should accomplish it at the expense of receiving from people, rather than trying to do and give what we can. That’s why, when I write about this, a lot of women get very angry. It’s like pushing guys on the way up versus working together.We just have to come into the natural female role that we’ve forgotten how to do, which is getting into a partnership with a man and letting them help us. Lisa: One of the biggest problems we have developed because we were taught to give, to nurture. Margaret: What you said about feminine power really is an interesting point.David Wygant, who’s also a dating coach, said exactly the same thing, giving the male perspective. Lisa: If you want to be involved with an alpha man, you should keep in mind several things.He said we shouldn’t wait to say something, but make the man feel honored. One of these is that you need to show him respect at every turn.When I heard that, I thought, “Oh my God, why would I want to make a man feel honored? In return, he will cherish you and do everything possible to make you happy. She respected the man’s opinion, and that made him turn around and do everything possible to make the deal work.Join us as we discuss how to find love – or at least a little romance – in your 50s, 60s or better! This could be related to finding love again, after a life of disappointments or divorce. A lot of women in our community were raised through those decades.It could also be finding ourselves on our own after 60. She specializes in women over 50, and she writes for the Huffington Post. She has been through on online dating journey and several divorces and is perfectly qualified to discuss this subject. Women’s lib and independence happened within that time frame, allowing us to do things for ourselves.Lisa: What was happening was that competition between men and women increased to a point where women couldn’t get into a partnership with men to work or live together. We thought we did everything so well that it was pretty much our way or the highway.My main goal is getting women into partnerships with men in both work and home.Lisa: We all grew up through the years of the women’s lib movement. This reminded me of a sign I had on my desk when I was in the working world.This was fantastic for getting us into the workplace and for getting us to use our brains again. You can do it better and you don’t need a man.” Now we do want men in our lives, but we don’t know how to relate to them because we weren’t taught that. It said, “A woman has to try twice as hard to be considered half as good as a man.