Communication Because users can engage in extensive online communication (called “Computer Mediated Communication” or CMC), prior to meeting, they form impressions that may or may not correspond to those they eventually make when they see the real person.When their expectation doesn’t match reality, they are then more disappointed than they would be if they had met the person earlier on in the relationship.Many of them even go beyond the matching process to help you confront the complex world of finding (and keeping) partners.e Harmony provides its users with advice on dating, relationships, and—of course—plenty of diagnostic quizzes.Although these online dating sites attract millions of customers and billions of dollars, scientific study reveals that they cannot possibly come through on these promises.In a recent comprehensive analysis, Northwestern University psychologist Eli Finkel and collaborators claim that online dating sites not only don’t improve, but may even hurt those seeking happiness in their relationships.
The information you provide about yourself now describes who you are today, but it may have little to do with who you are in 10 or 20 years.
Finkel and his co-authors also caution against the false belief that there is a perfect match for you out there in the online universe.
If you hold onto the false belief that you need to keep looking until you find that soulmate, you may zip past some otherwise excellent dating prospects.
Because you’re not meeting actual people, but instead examining their profiles, you’re not going through the normal give-and-take that occurs when people meet and talk for the first time.
The decision-making processes we go through when we’re examining online profiles are also different than those we use in offline situations.