By trying to follow the right etiquette in hopes of coming across as a “gentleman” or “good guy”, guys can actually make the opposite impression.
Instead of coming across sweet and chivalrous, guys instead come across as weak and needy.
One of the easiest ways to do that is to simply bring up how you feel in the moment. Have FUN on your dates When men try and follow proper dating etiquette to a T they can wind up on some pretty uninspired dates. If you want to make an impression on your date then don’t be like every other guy out there. Stop trying to get her to like you Some men who follow date etiquette but rarely get a second date will complain about how women just want to date “rich, good-looking guys” and “jerks”.
For example guys might take the girl out to “dinner and a movie” on a first date because, well, that’s just what dating is. Ditch the dinner and a movie and take her someplace fun. Find something you enjoy doing or would want to try out and invite her along to join you. That usually means the man is following this dating etiquette not because it’s part of who he is – but because he hopes to get something from it.
Make her earn your affection A major mistake guys make dating is they make things way too easy (and boring) for a woman. Get clear on the exact type of girl/relationship you are looking for, and then see if she fits the bill.
Even if it’s a first date a guy will go into it completely sold on the girl, and just hope that the girl likes him back. If you are actively filtering the women you are dating – and not just trying to get any and every woman to like you – you are automatically going to come across as more attractive and desirable to the women you date.
You are not only breaking her heart when you flake out, you are also potentially breaking theirs.
But Gay Girl freaks out, accuses Ex-Straighty of still being straight and goes as far as to accuse her of being in a “phase.” So in a lame attempt to save herself some heartache, Miss Lezzy up and leaves Ex-Straighty high and dry!
Now Ex-Straighty is heart broken and devastated over the loss of her true love.
No connection will be made and as a result that second date won’t happen.
So don’t be afraid on your dates to have deeper, more authentic conversation. Let her know what is going on with you and give her a chance to actually feel connected with you. Do an activity that would provide a lot of fun on its own, and make it that much better by bringing her along.