After a series of “comically bad” dates, she felt defeated, as though online dating “only made it easier to meet a whole bunch of wrong men, the kind who lied in their profiles or who had major character faults.” But instead of giving up, she got mathematical.
Webb developed a detailed rating system, awarding points for each criterion that a prospective date fulfilled.
Then, she crafted 10 distinct online male personae to understand the dos and don’ts of the digital dating game—in this case, that of JDate, which caters to Jewish singles.
But one universal goal of every online dater emerged: to “get offline as quickly as possible.” In other words, online dating is survival of the fittest.It’s a fine line, one that users should continue to question: “What’s fair in love and business?” It’s one of the biggest pitfalls Slater warns of in the e-dating field: choice overload.Sites like Match benefit from users who aren’t active on the site but still have a profile (think about it, you might be one of them).In online-dating speak, these inactive users are known as “date bait.” Their presence on the site inflates the number of messages sent.Ok Trends, a complementary blog to Ok Cupid that explores the data of online dating, presents powerful evidence to back up Rudder’s “hot” rule: a woman deemed hot by one study received four times as many messages as an average one—and 25 times as many as an ugly one.Of course, Rudder admits there are more pieces to the puzzle.After their first date, she asked if Andrew wanted to come see her barn and her apartment. Six months into their relationship, Andrew is proof that a little moxie goes a long way.Christian Rudder, co-founder Ok Cupid.com, is brutally honest.“And evidence shows that the perception that one has appealing alternatives to a current romantic partner is a strong predictor of low commitment to that partner.” Like The Daily Beast on Facebook and follow us on Twitter for updates all day long.Lizzie Crocker is a researcher and reporter at the Newsweek Daily Beast Company.