:( Dear Psychology Today: Thank you for this Facebook link, probably aimed at women between the age of 30-45, but I think we both know how completely irritated my husband (or any man) would be if I asked him any single one of these questions.
Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.9. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained one quality or ability, what would it be? If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know? Is there something that you've dreamt of doing for a long time? Ha, and yes, I also identify strongly with typical introvert characteristics :) So for myself I actually ended up feeling quite threatened by the prospect of being asked many of the questions - kind of a "yuck, answering this is going to be a big effort and it's going to take a lot out of me" - and I'm curious if the man you mention might respond in any similar ways.
If you want a different outcome, try a different script..
Good luck Helen, though I understand your position is based upon your experience - as all of us gather perceived truths from how our world reacts to us - saying that "we both know how completely irritated any man would be if asked these questions", is an inaccurate stereotype.
These questions only take about 45 minutes to discuss—and they almost always make two people feel better about each other and want to see each other again, according to social psychology researcher Arthur Aron of the Interpersonal Relationships Lab at Stony Brook University in New York, who published his results in "The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness" in (1997). Before making a phone call, do you ever rehearse what you're going to say? Someone who asks in a way I feel is invasive, demanding or not-listening still would not make me feel closer--again, whether it's this list of questions or any other.
You can try these questions with a date, but they're not necessarily only applicable to fostering romance. But the questions are designed to override evolution, the unconscious influence of pheremones and the complementary immune responses of compatible couples--not to mention involuntary physical attraction and repulsion.