When a man needs space, it often has little, if anything, to do with you.But let’s get into it a little deeper and look at common reasons and scenarios where men need space, and what you can do about it.What if we heard our partner’s need for alone time or time with other friends and knew, without a doubt, that this would strengthen our love?New stories and messages would dramatically change our reactions, normalizing our partner’s need and our own need for greater space. In truth, building space in our relationship is both a right and responsibility.Even worse, he may pretend like everything is totally normal, making you feel crazy, even though you know you’re not crazy and something is just not right here!A man might ask for space in the beginning of a relationship, or when things are more serious, or even after you’re married.We also, though, have the responsibility to treat our partner with respect when arranging for space.
You try to figure out what you could have done wrong, and you strategize about ways to make things better and get the relationship back on track.
you haven’t seen him in a while, his texts or calls are shorter and less frequent, and you can just feel it in your gut that something is amiss.
If you ask him what’s going on and why he’s being this way, he might come right out and say he needs some space (which does nothing to assuage your mounting anxiety), or he might say something to indicate it in an indirect way, like he needs to focus on work right now, or he’s really stressed, or he thinks you should be spending some time focusing on yourself.
However, as Patrician Monaghan says, “Nothing grows well without space and air.” It’s as true for plants as it is for humans; we need these essential elements – in the form of time alone or time with someone else not in the relationship – to flourish and grow.
Usually when someone says “I need time alone,” or “I need space” our fear ramps up. Is the real message, “I don’t like spending time with you?