If it’s unlikely that her relationship with your fiancé will fizzle out, then you need to find a way to work it out without completely cutting yourself off from your mutual group of friends.So put on your big girl pants, and let this girl know what is hurting your feelings.Just don’t make a point to hang around her specifically.You have to be able to deal with people like this and avoidance only gets you so far.As we explored our inner most desires and fantasies, I realized that I wanted to share my gorgeous wife.Amy is 5' 5" tall, 46 years old with long beautiful legs (she studied dance in college) and very perky tits.As Amy became more adventurous in the bedroom, I started to push her to do things that make some women uncomfortable.I started out with trying to have nude photographs of her. She was visibly upset the first time I took a nude shot of her in the shower. I did not discuss with her my fantasy of her being with someone else.
I’ve known her since my fiancé and I started dating a few years ago, and I genuinely liked her and got along with her at first, but over time, I got to know her better and recognized a lot of qualities in her that I really dislike.
To be honest, I’d love it if their friendship just fizzled out (unlikely), but I would never be that girl who says, “You CAN’T hang out with her.” However, I can’t help but think “Why would he want to spend time with somebody who makes me [supposedly the most important person in his life] feel so crappy and uncomfortable?
” I’m OK with just choosing not to attend small events that she’ll be at (if it’s a huge group, it’s not that big a deal), but how do I handle these feelings of discomfort, awkwardness, and resentment that come up when I know he’s spending time with her? I don’t want this to affect my fantastic relationship with my fiance, and while I want to be mature about this, I also refuse to object myself to her belittlement and rudeness. You are absolutely right to not forbid your fiancé from hanging with his friend.
The next time you are at a social gathering and she offends you, simply state, “Wow, that really hurts my feelings.” And then, excuse yourself.
If you can’t get a word in, you can say, (while she is taking a much-needed breath), “I feel like it’s hard for me to state my opinions around you — you barely give me time to speak.” If she tries to get all sassy with you, be prepared to back up your statements with all the wonderful examples you have already. And let me also say, avoiding her at social gatherings doesn’t necessarily mean you have to avoid the gathering altogether.