I’ll be writing this article based on my personal experience as a single male musician.I’m also based in New York City, which makes dating even harder.From an indie perspective, this is what it takes to put out a quality project (at bare minimum). I will say this though – train delays have screwed me over in most cases where I was actually on time, but ended up being late! Some (not all) women will try to evaluate what you’ve done, who you’ve worked with, and ultimately – what they can gain from your situation.I can’t tell you how many women have been overtly flirtatious with me and even pretended to be interested, just to try and get something for free.My opinion is that most men are doing it totally wrong. Therefore, the one thing that I’m always lacking is time.
If it’s going to work though, there has to be lots of trust.Not saying that’s never happened, but it’s up to the musician to remain faithful, and up to the woman to be understanding and supportive. Some artist/musician friends of mine are sacrificing it all for the chance to live their dreams.Working two jobs, and living with their parents so that they don’t have to spend money on expensive New York rent.That’s why it is absolutely critical to have a woman who understands the musician grind, otherwise it just won’t work.No matter how you look at it, jealousy can make any relationship extremely toxic.It’s certainly understandable for a woman to think that groupies are readily accessible at any given moment, but that’s just simply not the case (see above).In my past experiences, re-assuring my girlfriend that not every female artist I work with is trying to sleep with me has only been half the battle won.The reality is this: groupies don’t care about you when you’re on the come up, because you’re likely broke and struggling.Sadly, the groupies are trying to weasel their way into the VIP at Gansevoort to get a glimpse at Trey Songz, not come to your show at some hole-in-the-wall joint. Let me further explain why actual dating as a musician is so hard.Shockingly, here’s what he had to say: That said, I think opportunism is a music industry problem in general.I recently had a conversation with my friend Shay Leonia, a talented artist who was asking me how to break into the songwriter ‘placement scene.’ While I think this scene as a whole can become a soul sucking rat race full of rejection and frustration, I told her that my recommendation is to approach producers with “What services can I offer?