What does exploring your sexuality in your 50’s look like?
These are questions that Lucie Novak answers in her poignant memoir, A Woman with (No) Strings Attached: A memoir, which follows the sexual exploits and liberation of a woman in her fifties.
Keep in mind, a man taking a longer time to orgasm is actually a good thing because it provides extra time to connect with and pleasure each other! Don’t be insulted or feel like you’re doing something wrong if the person you’re with asks to use some lubricant.
This is by no means a reason to fear or abandon sex!At this stage of your life, chances are that you’re done with the bar scene and clubs or parties hold little to no appeal. If you’re a mature dater looking for no strings attached fun, you’ve come to the right place.No Strings Mature Sex makes finding mature sex partners in your area easier than ever! Unlike many other online dating sites which seem to cater to a younger demographic, No Strings Mature is a mature dating site specifically designed for senior singles and over 50s in the UK.Lucie Novak’s carnal adventures range from the hilarious to shocking resulting in a thought provoking account of sexual exploration.For those of you who are embarking on your own mature sex dating experience, we caught up with the author to see if she’d be able to provide us with a few tips. My husband of over 30 years left me for another woman, I felt old, unattractive and despite having many good friends, lonely.What many people don’t understand is that men can actually have multiple, smaller orgasms without actually ejaculating.Also, men can experience pleasure without being hard.That was made even easier by the fact that a lot of our communication was on line. I became confident, and for the first time in my life, I did not think that “men only want to be my friends.” I felt sexy. I changed rather fast, so my partner was probably right that it was all “in line with my personality”. I always worked out, used make up and dressed well, but in my “sexual revolution” I started wearing stockings and lingerie instead of my very sensible sports bras and cotton panties.I am a curious woman who likes to learn new things. And after couple of years it all became much more adventurous. And I discovered that wearing that sexy underwear made me feel different, sexy, attractive, even if nobody else knew I was wearing it. My other advice would be “Don’t do things you don’t want to do”. But to be able to do that, you first need to start respecting yourself. There’s a common misconception that once you reach a certain age, not only do you stop having sex, you stop to have sex – both of which couldn’t be further from the truth!I met a man who was comfortable talking about sex, and patient and interested enough to introduce me to sex which was not like a gift, sex where my pleasure was as important for him as his own. And then, it became even more unusual and not following conventional path or morality, I never thought I was a sexual being.I realised what most other women probably always knew, sex was fun. I was not interested in sex as a young woman, and really only became sexually active because it was expected of me.