The book raises some interesting questions about what we look for in a mate, as well as some alternative solutions for the marriage-minded among us.(Apparently, if you're a lady who wants to put a ring on it, is a single-man mecca.) But Birger also suggests that this "man shortage" might result in a surprising trend: women dating outside their class and education levels."He doesn't have to impress anyone (except probably me) ... "It's not like I went out in search of some 'working class hero' type because all of the guys from my school were taken," Emily*, 27, told .Emily attended a west coast private school, while her carpenter boyfriend Alex* has his GED.Among other things, that means keeping your ego in check if you're dating someone who has a higher level of education (or makes more money) than you do.
As a result of their disparate upbringings, the two have totally different outlooks on life — which is partially why they're so attracted to each other. Rather, it seems that mixed-collar relationships happen simply because both partners are compatible.
That doesn't mean settling so much as it means figuring out what really matters to you in a relationship.
In most cases, the answer usually isn't whether your partner makes a six-figure salary or has a master's degree."After a while, you start to let go of your checklist," Nadia told .
When she first met his parents, for instance, she was a little surprised when she had to sleep on the couch for the stay and his family ordered pizza for dinner.
"I was used to my family's house, where we have multiple guests beds and plan huge menus," Emily said.