Chiranjit should stop abusing his wife, defend her against his parents and clean up after himself when he is sick, they declare.
For her part, Nirmala should reduce the sum she is demanding from her husband to get her injured neck treated. She will return home, though if things do not improve, she will file for divorce. Marriage is much more about binding families, and much less about personal choice and fulfilment, than in most other parts of the world.
INTO A CRAMPED, stuffy room on the outskirts of Delhi shuffles a middle-aged woman in a yellow sari. When drunk, he can be violent: recently he tried to strangle Nirmala, injuring her neck.
Giving her name as Nirmala, she launches into an account of a marriage gone horribly wrong. Nirmala’s father- and mother-in-law, with whom she and her husband share a home, are bullies who accuse her of lying in bed all day. Nirmala’s husband, Chiranjit, has also turned up at the hearing, which is a —a sort of informal marriage court run by women. He points out, however, that he has defended Nirmala against his brother, who has tried to beat her.
You talk to people more that you would imagine, you confide in them more that you would expect.
What applies to one region of India may not apply to another region.
This is because India has about 29 states, each with a different language, customs etc.
Dating for this purpose would not be appropriate in India.
In general, the people of India tend to marry within their community whether that community exists within India or those of Indian decent living in other countries.