"Sending love notes, flowers and gifts shows your partner that you appreciate him or her and it's not just rote," Masini explains.
The relationships are real relationships, and the people are (most likely) someone else’s future husband or wife.The truth is we have given dating far too much credit, and far too much power in our pursuit of marriage.And because we misunderstand and misuse dating, we end up making more and greater mistakes in our search for love.I definitely do not expect everyone to agree with me.Godly wisdom is a wide stream, and God’s word often allows us to apply his heart and wisdom in remarkably different ways, even in dating. It came in many forms, but it goes something like this: So, I started paying tuition, registered for classes, purchased the textbooks, jumped into relationship after relationship, and never looked back — until I wanted my money back."Call your partner up during the day and talk sexy," suggests Masini."Or compliment your partner by telling him or her how hot he or she is, what you like best about sex with him or her, and what you want to do with him or her later that evening." Not only will this back-and-forth banter give your spouse a confidence boost, but when you let your partner know how much he or she turns you on, "you're recreating that dating feeling and stimulating your marriage," Masini says.Dating is an intentional pursuit of marriage, not casual preparation for it.Unfortunately, many of us are being told we must date early and often if we ever want to be ready for marriage."And yet there's nothing as pure and simple to show you're connected — to each other, yourself, and the world — than holding hands and strolling in the park, through the city, or on the beach," she says.The common trends in dating today are more likely to prepare you to get divorced than to enjoy and persevere in marriage.