He has probably been taken care of, coddled, and somewhat controlled.He feels he had the greatest marriage of the century.It is reminiscent of a kid who is trying to like broccoli.If this advice sounds negative, it is only meant to provide women with a jolt of realism, and to provide widowers with an eye-opener.And ALL of the students have spent some time with a book from a genre that’s outside of their typical reading comfort zone.
By the final round, about half of the students will typically have a book that they want to check out.The eclipses are just now changing over to your sign with Capricorn as your opposite axis from Leo and Aquarius.This means the Universe has something it wants you to understand, change, see, do and you are going to get several chances to figure out what this is and fix it if that is what is needed. This time, the eclipse in your sign will light up your solar chart 1st house. Meaning you may want to spend some time on your appearance or your health or how you are coming across to people.This type of man may have a hard time with the thought of a girlfriend or future wife.What about the widower who keeps his late wife’s clothes, phone messages, and pictures all around?So I try to do as much as possible to talk to my students about what they’re reading and help them find books that will get them hooked!One activity that I’ve found to be extremely successful this year is a round of “Book Speed Dating.” I know that this is an activity that many librarians have done for years…it’s tried and true for a reason!A widower can be still married in his mind, often feeling guilty, as if he is cheating on his beloved, deceased wife. Widowers can have wonderful qualities, if you are able to wait it out.As the new woman, you want a man who will see you for yourself, as an equal partner, not as a “mistress” he feels guilty about. It takes some time for a widower to deal with the loss of his wife and be able to accept another. But if you are expecting something to develop faster, and if you have expectations of coupling with gusto, your plans may end up in sadness. A woman must carefully evaluate the qualities of a widower and then talk to him openly about her needs.Some widowers get married very quickly after their loss. Then there are those who wait, and wait, and wait some more, unable to commit. Realistically, it takes special effort by both parties to develop a bond after a spouse has died. She must get some answers and then make an intelligent decision to wait or leave.Some men get used to being alone, even though they say they don’t want to be by themselves. It’s not like buying a car and knowing you can trade it in a year or 2 later if it isn’t what you want; this one is for life.