Once we add Fi into the mix, it is not hard to see how INTJs might be attracted, even if unconsciously, to rescuing and fixing those who seem needy or helpless.The relationship then becomes a sort of psychotherapeutic forum, with the INTJ working to analyze, diagnose, and treat his wounded partner.While not necessarily their fault, this should comprise at least as much of their relational attention as trying to see and diagnose problems in their partners.
Because their first job is to function as Intuitive Perceivers rather than as Judgers or actors, operating in a passive mode of perception is actually the sort of “work” they are meant to be doing, work that can ultimately benefit society.
Consequently, like other TJ types, they can come across as blunt, mechanical, or lacking a certain degree of tact or social know-how.
Their reputation as arrogant know-it-alls can also be attributed, in part, to misperceptions involving their Te.
When it comes to forming and developing relationships, INTJs often have a few factors working against them.
For one, they express themselves via their auxiliary Te rather than Fe.