You won't find someone who actually likes your kids. It paints a pretty bleak picture of searching for love (or even a casual hookup) as a single parent, and can easily scare someone off of dating altogether.
Shearer became a single mom at 26, when her son was 4 months old.
And having an amazing night with a romantic partner can be more fun when you're not waking up in an empty apartment.
"It's an incredible thing to go out with a guy at night and then he goes home and you wake up with your beautiful little three year old who has no clue where you just were," Shearer says.
"When you're a mom, it changes every sector of your dating life and who you choose to spend time with."Kaywanda Lamb, a single mom of two boys who coaches other single moms on dating and relationships, had a similar experience.
All she heard as a newly single mother was that no one, especially men who didn't have their own kids, would want to date a single parent.
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When people talk about dating as a single mother, they generally speak in can'ts, won'ts, and don'ts.
You can't tell someone you have kids on the first date.
"There are people in this world who do want to love us, because we're lovable," Lamb says.
And buying into the negative stereotypes about dating as a single parent can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.