Patients often report feeling alienated or disconnected from their families.
Often they attribute the difficulties in communication to their parents.
However, the BPD individual’s impaired ability to describe and communicate feelings or needs, or resistance to self-disclosure may be a significant cause of the feelings of neglect and alienation.
Persons who have been adopted are statistically more likely to develop BPD than the general population.
With my mom so often being absent during my weekdays, I didn’t really have a chance to learn to express or deal with my emotions properly.
I felt the need to suppress part of myself, couldn’t relate to myself, or my dad.
Especially when I was a teenager I used to WISH that I was adopted. Like it wasn’t me that went through this, I just watched someone else that looked like me go through it all. Some of this information is a bit repeat-o from things I’ve mentioned previously, but I feel it’s important to provide the findings of various experts on the subject of BPD as it is all relevant and useful. Such children fail to develop basic mental capacities that constitute a stable sense of self and make themselves or others understandable or predictable. Recent studies have suggested that pre-borderline children fail to learn accurate ways to identify feelings or to accurately attribute motives in themselves and others (often called failures of “mentalization”). Like most other mental illnesses, Borderline Personality Disorder does not appear to originate during a specific, discrete phase of development.One important theory has emphasized the critical role of an invalidating environment.People with BPD frequently report feeling neglected during their childhood.Sometimes the sources for this sense of neglect are not obvious and might be due toa sense of not being sufficiently understood.(2015) Family Functioning and Parental Invalidation of Depressed Adolescents with Borderline Personality Disorder Traits. doi:10.4172/2375-4494.1000235 Copyright: © 2015 Valentin M, et al.This is an open-access article distributed under the terms of the Creative Commons Attribution License, which permits unrestricted use, distribution, and reproduction in any medium, provided the original author and source are credited.I can NOT attest to physical or sexual abuse when I was a child.But as mentioned in this post I have very strong, distinct memories of having my feelings and accomplishments invalidated.