You know what I am talking about…Lying about emotions, hiding important thoughts and feelings, manipulating circumstances in order appear right, these are all games that, in the end, will do nothing more than damage your relationships and destroy intimacy. Expectations are the driving force behind our emotional state of being. In our heads, many of us expect our significant other to cook, clean, work a part time job, look drop dead gorgeous every day, be ready to screw at the drop of a hat, and constantly support and encourage us whether we deserve it or standards.
However, if you have found yourself in a perpetual cycle of bad relationships and missed red flags, then consider accelerating the pace of your sexual interactions.The reason for this is simple: Sex breaks the boundaries.When you have sex with someone, you’re sharing with them the most intimate part of your physical self, and when these physical boundaries drop, so to do the emotional and mental ones.This isn’t because we’re conceited or selfish, it’s because our entire life experience, and a result, all that we’re able to talk about, is perceived through our personal filter. Have you ever found yourself in one of those conversations where you couldn’t help but feel like the other person was just waiting for their turn to speak? If you want to succeed in your dating life, you need to show a genuine interest in who your partner is and what they have to say. I’m all in favor of men and women having the same opportunities, the same means of self expression, and the same freedom to explore their sexuality.If you can make them feel like you’re a good listener and easy to talk to, I guarantee you you’ve already won half the battle and automatically put yourself above most other people they might interact with. But I’m also a fan of evolutionary psychology and the of attraction and relationships.Even men who have a realistic set of expectations often forget to share these expectations with their partner and have a clear understanding of what is required for the relationship to work.If you want to eliminate pain and pressure in your relationships then start by sitting down with your partner and clearly defining your expectations it is to the relationship.And, for better or for worse, there’s absolutely no arguing that the vast majority of women want the man to make the first move.This is true in the beginning stages or relationships. And it’s true when you come towards the end of your relationship.In order to successfully attract a member of the opposite sex, we must play our cards well, being cognizant of what we say, how we say it, how we initiate physical touch, and countless other variables that spark and hold attraction.There’s an inescapable push/pull dynamic that is a necessary part of filtering and testing potential partners.