They’d prefer to start by building a basis of trust,” says Nicole Schiller.
“I often worried about it afterwards when I met up with someone quickly,” says Laura (32) about her first experiences of Parship, “but I didn’t want to look like a killjoy, so I’d go along with it.” “If someone is moving things along too quickly for your taste, put your foot calmly on the brake: explain that you need more time before taking things to the next stage,” suggests Schiller.
For instance, Anna (46) broke off contact with a man who asked for her photo straight away.
“He wrote in his message that he didn’t like wasting time if he didn’t think it was going to lead anywhere.
On the other hand, if you’re looking for something as important as a potential partner, then you don’t want to rush things.
Give yourself enough time to gain an understanding of the other person - that applies as much to email or phone contact as it does to a face-to-face meeting. Melanie, a 28-year-old tax officer says: “When Tom [a sales manager] suggested we meet, I agreed straight away.
It’s important to find something that works for both of you.
It's one of those things that's so easy to identify in other people, yet when it comes to turning the same critique on yourself it's so easy to miss it.
It's normal to get all loved up and gooey during the honeymoon phase, but if you get caught up in that, you can end up rushing into a relationship built on giggles and sex, without much substance.
This would be great, except sometimes the questions and answers are limited in the options they provide.
As an example, answers to the question “How soon would you be ready to have sex?