The problem is that you may have gotten it before him. She went on to have 3 healthy children without spreading it to us (or our dad). Many people having herpes is irrelevant to this situation.Herpes tests aren't very accurate, false negatives are very common, that's why they're not included on routine STI screening.So it could have been any of your partners despite having been tested. As others have said, it isn’t tested for unless specifically requested. It spreads like wildfire and there’s no way to tell who got it from whom. Also, a significant portion of the sexually active population has herpes. He is likely giving it to other women and that is abhorrent behavior.Or it could have been this guy and he didn't know, because he never had any symptoms and it's not something normally screened for. As far as your worry about this affecting having children, my mom got herpes in a very similar situation to yours decades ago. OP is making a reasonable request for help to explore all avenues that could potentially stop this guy.This is actually pretty well known, so if those other girls aren’t insisting on condoms that’s their problem.If I were to start start seeing a new person I would just assume they have either herpes or hpv, because most people do. There are several things to keep in mind, however --It's entirely possible for someone to be an asymptomatic carrier of herpes virus.I texted him and he said that he was sorry, that he didn't know. I know have not only physical pain, and trust me, I got it BAD. Most of the doctors I’ve seen refused to even test me for herpes, usually telling me that it’s so common that I should assume that I do have it (50-80% of people have oral herpes/cold sores, 20-25% have genital herpes, and the vast majority don’t even know they have it because they’ve never had an outbreak), and that getting the diagnosis/the stigma is often more harmful than the herpes itself.
The figures reflect national trends, with reported STDs reaching an unprecedented high in the United States in 2015.
People can have the virus for years and never show any symptoms and be completely unaware they are carriers, yet still spread the virus to others.
The second thing is herpes is not normally tested in a standard STD panel.
In fact, the blood tests for the virus are quite a recent medical development, and as little as a decade ago the only way for a doctor to tell if someone had HSV was to observe an outbreak.
While it is painful and traumatic, its not considered medically significant except in very specific circumstances such as childbirth or persons with compromised immune systems.