Now that I am trying to date after 30 years I am having real hard time with it.For example, I have new lady friend I would like to move to a relationship with. It sounds so easy to go from friendship to a relationship, but the truth is that it is rather challenging.This is truly a shame because there are so many missed opportunities out there.It takes alot for me to work up the nerve, but I've done it.....to have the other individual not be interested.....large part because it is so different from the norm for the woman to initiate conversations or etc.My friends and I talk about who we are dating so if I wasn't about aware until friend one of my "friends" was already in a dating with one of my exes then she isn't a real friend to me. If you think of someone as a "real friend", and it should happen, then they really weren't a "real friend" at all, and you would end the quote. View detailed profile Advanced or search site with. San Diego 5, posts, read 7, times Reputation: Oakland, CA 25, posts, read 26, times Reputation: Originally Posted by jade You are asking the wrong question. Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. With your dedication, love and patience, you just may get yourself a partner for life.Aleeza Ben Shalom is known as the Marriage Minded Mentor.
Although there isn’t one “right” way to make the transition, here are 7 tips to go from friend to “in a relationship.” 1. A client of mine told me that she was planning to set her guy friend up with a girlfriend of hers. I helped script the following message which she sent to him: “I have a crazy question for you. Since you started out as friends your level of trust and open communication should be more developed.I know that I was going to set you up with Katy but I was wondering if you would like to grab a coffee with me at some point. If not, no worries and I’ll for sure set you up with Katy. You probably already have the foundation for speaking openly and honestly with each other, but since you are in a relationship now, both parties are likely to be vulnerable and afraid of being hurt or losing a friend. Do one thing weekly that shows you care more than just a friend.Men seem to want to be the pursuer, but don't take hints very well so what is a woman to do that is interested? Then it's in the guy's court to either pick up or ignore the hanky. (I'm curious to know how often asking a "crazy" question has worked for the author - I've never seen it.) Offering to set him up is a great way to drop a hanky - this lets him know that she thinks he is a good catch.It may also signal that she is not interested in him.But, before and during a conversation with her I get so anxious my mind usually goes blank so I have extremely hard time coming up with what to say to start a converation and how to carry on the conversation. She has said at the end of email conversations a couple times that she feels I am a wonderful handsome gentleman. I have very limited dating experience and the few guys that I have really liked and wanted to pursue a relationship with; it hasn't bothered me to initiate conversation and try to establish it.But, when I respond to her with your very kind hearted beautiful lady. However; there is the challenge.......is that I do believe that in our society it is still more acceptable for the man to make the first move than that woman.We explored “9 Reasons to Date Your Best Friend” and a whopping 80% of our readers said they'd be willing to give it a try. If you really are friends then whatever happens, you two can communicate and weather the storm. You can write a handwritten note or card, or buy a small present that shows you were thinking of them.Love is a delicate thing and building any loving relationship takes time. One of the best ways to show you care is by asking, “What can I do for you to help you feel appreciated and loved?Sometimes we think we know someone better than we actually do. If that’s the case, you need to be reintroduced as a couple. We live in an age where everything moves so fast that we expect instantaneous gratification or we get bored. We need to have patience to let a relationship grow at its own pace.Family who may have only thought of you as a friend need to know that your status has changed. They are usually in close proximity to each other at social events and gatherings and they seem to enjoy each other’s company. Some friendships will develop into a relationship at a tortoise’s pace.