Completely ignoring her ensures her attraction for you doesn’t go down. This goes double if she’s dumped you for another guy.
Sometimes it takes a few weeks for them to come back, sometimes it takes several years.If she’s single or has an Old Boyfriend, then I will send her a quickie text with a casual comment like, “I just saw a girl walk down the street who looked just like you.” Sometimes I even just say, “How’s it going?” It doesn’t really matter what you say, as long as you are non-needy, outcome independent, and don’t compliment her.If you get serious resistance to the idea of her coming over or seeing you, terminate the conversation as fast as you can and reset the four-month ignore timer again.Eventually, if you do this as I’m describing, you have sex with her again.What if my quick checking reveals she does have a New Boyfriend? I just reset the timer and keep on ignoring her for another 4-6 months. Hitting up an ex who has a New Boyfriend is a complete and utter waste of your time.She’s in NRE bilss with her New (temporary) Boyfriend so she probably won’t even return your texts.It’s virtually guaranteed assuming A) you do it correctly, B) you’re in no rush, and C) you weren’t a oneitisy pussy or extreme asshole while you were dating her the first time around.Or, you can ignore my advice and keep contacting her over and over again to “be nice” or “maintain the connection” or “keep the interest up” or to “try to get her back.” All of this will ensure you’ll be stuck in friend zone forever and never get her back into your sex life. Note/Update: I am no longer responding to any comments on this post.No, your situation is not “unique” or “different.” It’s the exact same steps for every scenario.Way too many of you are being complete pussies and not following the very clear and simple advice you’ve been given.