However, it wasn’t until I broke the rules that I realized this type of situation can’t be so easily explained or dismissed.
Experience is the best teacher of all and this particular experience was an eye-opener and game-changer for sure. I met up with a friend one Saturday afternoon at a bar for a football game. He was cute, charming, and we seriously hit it off right away.
We dated for a few months, it never got serious, but I did have fun and I truly enjoyed the time we spent together. And why did he act like such an ass when I called him, only to change his tune 5 minutes later? Maybe he was drunker than I thought and was afraid he had his beer goggles on?
Maybe he was just looking to get laid that night and didn’t feel the need to continue to pursue me when that didn’t happen?
Maybe he just wasn’t that into me at first but my boldness, and subsequent cool-ness about the whole thing changed his mind?
And just because something started out going in one direction it doesn’t mean you can’t take control and reroute.I looked at him, stunned, “Sorry, I forgot how pretty you are.” The only thought resounding in my head was WTF?!?I was dying to ask why he didn’t call me but I restrained myself.QUIZ: Are You Accidentally Destroying Your Love Life?Ten minutes later he called to tell me he was waiting downstairs.We exchanged numbers, kissed, said our goodbyes, and I left feeling quite pleased with myself, knowing that I had played my cards right. I wasn’t expecting a call on Monday or Tuesday because of the ‘rules’ and all that, but by Wednesday night I started to feel a little panicked. By 7 pm I had two choices: resign myself to the fact that he isn’t into me, or do something I had never, ever done before- call him. As the phone rang I practiced the message I would leave on his voicemail in my head but was interrupted when, to my astonishment, a very perplexed-sounding J answered the phone.Deducing that I had nothing to lose, I decided to go with the latter because he was cute and funny and he gave me butterflies in my stomach which no one had done since my ex and I had been incapable of feeling anything for anyone after my ex and now I finally had feelings again and feelings don’t come around every day so I wasn’t gonna let this go so easily. From there, a horrifically awkward conversation ensued.I also learned that a little bit of confidence and courage can go a long way when it comes to getting what you want.Had I never called J, I probably would have spent many more months wallowing in self-pity thinking that there was something about me that just wasn’t good enough, at least in his eyes.But if you want to, um, then yeah, sure okay I guess I mean if you want to” “Um okay.See you soon.” At this point, I was absolutely panicked.