Tell him to keep his hands to himself, to hold doors and to engage his date in interesting conversation.Tell your daughter to invite her date in so you can meet him, to be respectful and to thank her date if he pays.When your teen sees his dad treating you with kindness and respect, he is more likely to treat girls and women the same way.The same goes for the way you treat his father; if he sees you treating his dad with kindness and respect, he’s more likely to expect that treatment from girls and women as he gets older. When she learns to be proud of herself, to respect herself and to value her self-worth, she is less likely to engage in risky dating behavior, including sex and violence.
"These are conversational skills that encourage people to come along. And if you go out with somebody and they leave that date saying, 'she really liked me,' we like people who like us."If you're a great audience, people are going to love you."But one of the things you need to do are minimal encouragers, where you let the other person know, I'm hearing what you're saying.I'm interested in what you're saying, with what you're doing right now.So when they get into the date, they start just giving all of that up. My ex did this, my ex did that.' Or they start telling too much about themselves. If they're just rolled over on their heels, those are all serious don'ts."Dr. You give it all up at first, like my mom used to tell my sisters, 'Why buy cow if you get the milk free.' "Wednesday morning on The Early Show, Dr.Phil says you don't want to be somebody you're not. "I don't care if you answer that from a moral standpoint or some other standpoint. Phil returns with his wife, Robin, to talk about couples who are stuck in a relationship rut.The Don'ts:"A lot of people show up to a relationship with baggage," Dr. "I mean they haven't done an autopsy on their prior relationship, they have unfinished emotional business.They come in, they've got a chip on their shoulder.For many single women, dating can be difficult and disappointing. Phil offers advice to get through the dating maze and help find your Mr. He returned to the The Early Show to talk with co-anchor Rene Syler about how to do just that. Phil says that dating is "simply one of the most inefficient, non-productive, haphazard, hit-or-miss ways to try to achieve one of the most important objectives of your entire life."How so? When you decide 'I want to find a life partner, I want to get out there and make it happen,' nobody has a plan," he says. Phil says: "I want you to really spend some time consciously making eye contact with him. "I would rather four of them say they didn't like her, and one guy say I really liked her. His new book, "Love Smart: Find the One You Want — Fix The One You Got," Dr. Look right at him."As Wendy establishes eye contact, the date says, "We should look at the menu. " "I can't honestly say I was paying enough attention," Wendy says."Say I was paying more attention to you than the menu," prods Dr. The worst thing in the world you can do is if you go to a party and you meet four or five guys, and the next day not one of them can remember you.Inform your son that he should get out of the car and ring the doorbell of his date’s home so that he can meet her parents.Tell him to shake their hands and introduce himself, to be respectful and to have her home before her curfew.