That weekend I talked to a neuropsychologist from Milwaukee; a software developer from Austin, Texas; an improv instructor from Seattle; and an economics masters student from London.
At first, these calls were a little awkward—what were you supposed to say to a complete stranger you’d probably never meet?
Reading through them, I noticed something odd: Many of Ok Cupid’s successful users first met when they were living across the country—or the world—from each other.
“Meeting him for the first time tomorrow.” A recent survey of the group found most members are young, between 18 and 23.
Though the internet allows us to connect with people across the globe near-instantly, dating apps like Tinder prioritize showing us nearby matches, the assumption being the best date is the one we can meet up with as quickly as possible with little inconvenience.
A year and a half ago, I was 23, single, and working as an engineer at the online-dating site Ok Cupid.
Then one day I had my wisdom teeth pulled and my cheeks became grapefruits.
Figuring this was not a great first-date look, I made no weekend plans.