Our outer relationships are a mirror of our basic inner relationship with ourselves.
Relationships are a balance, a development and a dance between our male and female qualities.
In general, each must be a person in his or her own right.
If one does not have a relationship with the self, it is truly impossible to have a living process (healthy) relationship; it will not be possible to be honest with the “other” if one is not in contact with oneself.
In healthy relationships, the focus is upon respecting one’s own process.
When this happens, each – almost be default – respects the others journey and supports it as well as his or her own.
When relationships are based on the expectation that a partner should fill our inner emptiness, it is like offering an empty cup to our partner with the expectation that the partner should fill our empty cup – instead of overflowing from our inner being and filling our cup from within ourselves.
The difference between acting out of our inner being, from our inner source of love, and acting out of our inner emptiness, is like the difference between acting out of light and darkness.
As long as we look for the source of love outside of ourselves, we will eventually become disappointed and disillusioned.
A fifth relationship in healthy relationships is the actual relationship that exists between the two people.
It is dependent upon the previous four having been developed, maintained, and “cleaned up” if necessary.
Healthy relationships imply supporting each other, yet these is no focus upon “fixing” the other person.
Each person’s process is respected and it is recognized that each must do what he or she must.