Not only would it be foolish, but downright selfish.While you do not have to commit to marrying this person right away, you should realize that any guy-girl relationship you begin has the potential to end in marriage. That is why it is important to consider some warning signs you will look for while dating someone. If you desire to have a marriage relationship built on Scripture, you will want to marry a man who will be a strong spiritual leader to you and your future family. Your spiritual maturity may result in frustration and leadership struggles if he is not as strong as you in his relationship with God. Ultimately, your spiritual condition is up to you and you alone.It’s an good question that needs to be considered seriously. The same applies for sexual innuendo that is inappropriate before marriage.If he is always broaching conversations about sex, he is not doing a good job of helping you to protect your mind against lust before marriage.He is already showing that he is unwilling to “forsake all others,” and that he is not living a pure lifestyle.Paul writes in 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one transgress and wrong [defraud] his brother in this manner, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things…” God’s will is for your sanctification, which includes purity. If it is not, then he is a defrauder, who loves himself more than you or God. How does your date cope when things do not go as planned?
If a man cannot do that, he is not ready to be a husband.I am not implying that a man has to be a prude, but he is to be a protector.If a man is addicted to pornography, he is already committing adultery/fornication in his heart, even before you tie the knot.by Shelley Poston It can be difficult to be clear-headed in a dating relationship.It is easy to see only the positive in the other person and completely ignore any warning signs. It would be foolish to date someone and not even consider the possible outcomes.Because so often, “Love is blind,” input and counsel from other people around you will be very helpful to spot positives or negatives in a relationship. All of these points, of course, you should prayerfully consider in your own life.If we as women are unwilling to be above reproach in these areas, why should we expect that from men?As Solomon, the wisest man of all, said, “For wisdom is better than jewels, and all that you may desire cannot compare with her”, (Proverbs ). A man who does not want counsel and hides from accountability is a man who is not ready to be open with a wife.He may seem strong and independent, but he may actually be prideful.Does he spew his anger all over everyone, including you? Proverbs -25 says, “Make no friendship with a man given to anger, nor go with a wrathful man, lest you learn his ways and entangle yourself in a snare.” If you are not to make friendships with angry people, why would you covenant yourself to someone who fits this description? If he would more readily spend a day on the lake than helping someone in need, this indicates where his heart lies.Proverbs makes it clear that you will only be ensnared. You may actually become an enabler who receives the brunt of his anger. Those little childlike qualities may seem really cute right now, but it will grow old (and aggravating) shortly into marriage. If a man is not responsible with his time, money, and work, why would he be responsible in his future family life? You should also consider your date’s relationships with other people.