Sylvester had shown up for work under the influence and was found unfit for duty.When ordered to report to his staff sergeant, he told his supervisor to ‘f–k off’ and then left without permission. In 2002, Sylvester landed in criminal court where he was convicted of assault: he had gone along to recover a vehicle for a male friend who had a restraining order not to have contact with his wife.James tells me that after focusing on his career for most of his 20’s, he’s been dating intently for the past year. It seems that whenever he goes out with women, they’re all so SHALLOW.They never want to TAKE THE TIME to get to know him as a human being.After almost two decades of misconduct, Toronto Police Const.Troy Sylvester was finally fired Wednesday — the last straw being his stealing from a suspect’s wallet while booking him into custody at 31 Division.“This was not a single incident in an otherwise unblemished career.He has previous findings against him under the PSA (Police Services Act) and has been convicted twice in criminal court,” wrote acting Supt. Suspended with pay since 2014, Sylvester was found guilty under the Police Services Act of “corrupt practice” for taking the prisoner’s money.
Evan, how about a corny analogy here: It sounds like enrolling in dating coaching is a lot like learning to play an instrument. You find someone who is a good teacher (good coach) and learn techniques to make you a better musician. And so it should be with learning how to be effective in relationships. No one would attempt to be a clarinet teacher if they couldn’t play clarinet themselves.
If it’s playing scales, learning tricks to speed-read music, etc., you do it and trust that it will make you more skilled. Maybe part of the problem is not just that people take it very personally, but they also hear a lot of sketchy advice along the way because everyone thinks they’re experts at relationships – heck, even if they’ve never been in one. Evan, I can understand why every once in a while you may feel as though you’re swimming against the current.
The difference between music lessons and dating lessons seems to be that people take the latter too personally, like this guy James. Taking advice too personally and a history of hearing both good and bad advice may be two reasons.
I enjoy working with guys because, when they’re motivated, they’re hardworking and highly coachable.
Plus, the men who gravitate towards me are usually “nice guys” who just need a little bit of an edge to succeed wildly with women.