You and your boyfriend, should you guys get engaged, may have to sacrifice some of your ideas of what a “nice wedding” looks like.You may have to compromise on your ideas of a nice life, too.Frankly, I’m kind of surprised you even have to ask whether your debt is something you should mention to your boyfriend, and I’m even more surprised that you seem to think the cost of your wedding is the only reason — or at least, the only reason you mention in your letter — to broach the topic of your financial limitations with him. But I also know that even if I am not making a big financial contribution to my marriage, I contribute so much in other ways, and on good days — which definitely outnumber the bad days — I choose to focus on those things.A wedding is one day in the rest of your lives together. I’m a good cook, for example, and a good mom and I’m fun to be around and good at organizing both our social calendar as well as our kitchen pantry, and I make a kick-ass Bailey’s martini. Most of them agreed — finding out someone we’re dating had K in debt would be a red flag, but if it was for student loans, that would be one thing.How are you going to walk away from the love of your life if you find out he has K of CC debt? Tell him exactly how much debt you have and what your monthly minimum payments are.