The first main issue is was how I sleep a lot, am frequently exhausted, can go into myself and be totally emotionally detached and absent.
His words were, “How you sleep all day sometimes, retreat into yourself and spend a lot of time recovering.” That makes him feel “alone.” (makes sense, right? The second thing he doesn’t like is that I’m scared of so many things it makes it hard for us to do anything together.
I think I even turn good things we’ve experienced together into bad things without realizing it.
I also don’t remember simple things like taking care of something I said I would do.
The relationship house consists of the day-to-day relating, activities, growth, intimacy and connection that the couple creates.
This is the metaphorical house they will live in together so they are trying to make it into something positive, healthy and supportive in their lives. And things go wrong easily if one partner has PTSD.
Now I want to look more at how PTSD affects the “relationship house” that two people build on the foundation.At the same time, certain dynamics in the relationship could be a way to play out past trauma that only the unconscious mind knows about (there are no conscious memories), in an attempt to alert the conscious mind that there is something that needs healing – like a beacon trying to get attention. Although not all people with PTSD feel suicidal, it is a symptom of PTSD.So my list of The Main Things That Disrupt Our Relationship are my: I created this illustration that shows a few of the main things that get in-between a person with PTSD and their partner. It can be very difficult for a relationship when one person is suicidal.So boyfriend feels alone and abandoned by my: From my point of view, I just see all the symptoms of PTSD standing in-between my boyfriend and I like a huge wall.The worst things are not being able to see who he is for real and feeling so terrified of him for no reason.(scroll past discussion to end of article for full list of 50 items) In my experience, PTSD causes an extreme amount of stress, not only for the partner who has PTSD but for both partners as well as children and extended family members if there are any in the picture.Both partners may suffer from a sense of exhaustion because PTSD burns up energy like nothing else.I know I’m creating a ton of stress for both of us, so I feel terrible when I see him suffering from stress related issues. So I think grief is in there and if it is a profound grief, you may not be available to your partner – at least not fully – until you grieve that loss or those losses.Most of the time, I wish I could be a better, normal partner. I also feel like over time PTSD can destroy the love one genuinely has for their partner, because it takes over emotionally and in the storm one can forget any of the positive, loving emotions they once felt towards their partner. The part of your heart lost in grieving will be a part of you that is not there to love your partner.For example, I didn’t go rafting with him because my lungs had been damaged and the river has a road with traffic next to it.I didn’t want to harm my lungs with contamination/exhaust fumes.