In a recent interview, Tinder’s sociologist Jessica Carbino explained how men looking too attractive on profile pictures deters women.
Carbino says her time at Tinder has shown her men and women swipe left and right for completely divergent reasons.
When it came to dating in New York as a 30-something executive in private equity, Dan Rochkind had no problem snagging the city’s most beautiful women.
“I could have [anyone] I wanted,” says Rochkind, now 40 and an Upper East Sider with a muscular build and a full head of hair.
“I gave him my card and said I have the perfect girl for him,” recalls Janis, founder of Serious Matchmaking, based in Midtown.
“Successful men who are in shape have the pickings when it comes to dating, [but] eventually they want a woman of substance.” Rochkind found that in Carly, 30, a lovely brunette who’s the vice president of her mother’s matchmaking company and a Syracuse University graduate. He loves that Carly isn’t like the swimsuit models he used to go for.
A multipart study from Harvard University, University of La Verne and Santa Clara University researchers found that beautiful people are more likely to be involved in unstable relationships.Chitre, an environmental lawyer and the founder of Priyamvada Sustainability Consulting, considers herself “a 9 or a 10,” but she says she’s done with gorgeous guys.Now, she’s more interested in “superballer” men with high-paying careers.“But after a date or two, they’ll have problems hanging out with you and then will ghost.” Last year, she stopped putting looks at the top of her dating criteria on Bumble, instead opting for guys who traveled a lot and were “make the most out of their lives” types.In August 2016, she met Christopher Argese, a 27-year-old security technician.“When men get to a certain age, they realize that it’s important to meet a life partner that they connect with,” she says.“Looks fade.” Some great-looking people say they’re given a bad rap unfairly.“There’s something to be said about sowing your wild oats and getting them out of your system,” says Rochkind, who will marry Carly in June at a “Tuscan-romantic” ceremony at the Wölffer Estate Vineyard in the Hamptons. “You don’t want to be the first to leave the party, but you don’t want to leave the party too late either,” he says.The best you can be may be the worst thing you can do when it comes to dating online.woman from Hoboken, NJ, also changed her dating habits.The svelte, blue-eyed brunette used to exclusively date 6-foot-tall dudes who looked like Calvin Klein models.