Surely the divorce is well behind him.” I wanted to believe my man was ready for the next phase of his life, where he would get a second and better chance at love. I soon discovered that time does heal all wounds, as the popular dictate suggests. It goes against all rational thinking and belief systems, but it’s the reality of the situation.In a HCP’s distorted mind, hurts and slights that occurred 10 years ago are as fresh as last week.Two of my most popular blogs were on gifts for those going through divorce. More than the pampering and polish, one hour in a chair doing nothing is the greatest gift. A gift certificate from you for real time- babysitting, picking the kids up from school or even ( if you are up for it) taking her kids for an overnight. If she is taking back her birth name, consider something monogrammed with her new initials. Nothing helps say this is MY bed more than new sheets( except of course, a new bed). Gifts for the Newly Divorced or Separated or Gifts for the Newly Divorced by Atty. After a year of exhaustive searching by our team of shopping pros ( Ahem. Giving the gift of time makes you a friend for life. Monogrammed totes are a lovely, useful gift that flaunt her new moniker for all to see. Not a box of tiny, pink, cutesy hammers and screwdrivers that are reminiscent of the Easy Bake Oven of our childhood. Roomba, a little robot vaccum does what you hate to do and gives you results you love. What’s the best gift YOU ever received ( divorced or not)?
Now that I'm nearing the end of the divorce process (it's a marathon — not a sprint!Reality does not matter to the HCP, so it has to matter to you if you want any subsequent relationship to last and thrive.What matters more than the passage of time is boundaries. Just think- no more guilt about the Doritas and Dog Hair plus a clean house. To wear to meetings with the divorce lawyer, for court proceedings and later for speed dating. I like the Roomba and the undies, but the Pink song is also a winner. For a limited time it is available to borrow for free!! The intention of this blog is to be gently thought-provoking. Simply program this little buddy and it will vaccum your floors and carpets DAILY, effortlessly, quietly. The number one BEST thing to buy a divorced/ing woman? Well, here’s where it all breaks down……I simply could not pick an out and out winner. From Ex-Wife to Exceptional Life: A Woman's Journey through Divorce is now available in Kindle format for .99.The reality is no one can predict how a divorce will impact your kids.Don't use friends for legal advice — meaning, don't hire a friend to handle the divorce even though your friend will cut you a break financially. Some years ago, I heard about a lawyer in England who had gift cards available for loved ones to present to the woman experiencing divorce. If something you read here evokes a strong response that hinders your ability to cope with life, please seek professional help. While we don’t usually recommend appliances as gifts this is a winner! If she is still struggling with her legal bills, see if you can make a payment directly to her attorney. Then the idea of having your legal bills paid is simply, well, fabulous. It is not intended to substitute for professional, personalized therapy.In hindsight, this relationship was his “transitional” relationship; a relationship that helped re-build his self-esteem until he realized it wasn’t meant to be a long-term proposition.I share this with you because it’s important to be cognizant of this phenomenon and not over-commit to the first woman who shows you kindness.