This does require a bit of faith and a lot of security, as you won’t be going on a lot of dates or doing a lot of “stuff” with people.
You’ll need confidence in knowing that what you are doing is right.
Consider someone who goes from suboptimal relationship to suboptimal relationship, each lasting 2 years with 2 months in between.
Say normally, you have 80 hours a month to socialize with people, but in a relationship (since you need to spend alone time together), you only have 20 hours to socialize with other people.
Outside of a relationship, you would have 1920 hours to socialize with people.
Locked in a “bad” relationship, you would only have 480 hours to invest in your other potential relationships.
It might take you a few relationships to get your list right.
As a guy who has faced his fair share of rejections and successes in terms of dating, there are several observations I’d like to share about finding the right person to marry.
Wouldn’t it be better to take a few months and think it over clearly instead of spending years in relationships that don’t work?
After careful consideration, my list is pretty simple: Is Single Open And Honest Educated Flexible/Open Minded – Easily Adapts To Change Has Great Listening And Conflict Resolution Skills Knows What She Wants Female Available – Able To Fit Me Into Her Life Has Compatible Goals Loves And Appreciates Me For Who I Am After I made this list, it only took about a year for me to find what I feel is the perfect person for me.
In this case, the problem is “You’d like to find a husband or wife”, so the first thing to consider is whether you actually want to be married.
After all, if you have no desire to actually commit to anyone, no amount of searching will do you any good.