When I date someone, touch and affection are very important to me and these barriers make that nearly impossible.I have, however, dated men with other disabilities, like mental illness, and chromosomal defects.[There were] men who saw me as someone they could use for a green card or my money.I even married a man I desperately loved, [who] immediately pressured me to apply for his green card and when he became impatient [waiting for it], emptied my bank account, maxed out my credit cards to the tune of ,000, bought a one-way ticket back to his home country with my credit card, and ransacked my apartment while I was in a deposition one day.The biggest surprise of dating others with disabilities: I dated a guy with cerebral palsy for about a year.For some strange reason, I shied away from dating another person with a disability, as I thought it would be the only thing we would talk about.Or the next Stephen Hawking, who has taught us more about the universe than any other human.
How his first relationship changed his perspective: My whole life, I felt like I was never going to be desired.
Relationship experiences have been positive: I have so many good memories from all of my relationships.
I think my favorite memories are those memories where my disabilities and access needs were really accepted and accommodated. But it’s presented as ' This non-disabled person could have gotten anyone, and they chose a disabled person.' It’s objectifying as all hell.
Maybe it's not a disability that falls under the legal definition and maybe it's not visible.
But I have dated men who were weaker in character than I am physically.