Instead, keep your options open to keep your sanity and remind him that you are a prize to be won.When you stop over-investing too quickly, you’ll start getting the kind of affection and attention you crave.We give away our exclusivity before a man gives us the commitment we want.When we close off our options with other men too soon, we actually sabotage our ability to get the commitment and intimacy we so desire.You get to CHOOSE if he is the right man for you, and have the time to find out who he is and how he will treat you.THE RIGHT WAY TO TAKE THINGS SLOWLY Everyone tells you to “take things slow,” but how on Earth are you supposed to do that when you’re head over heels for someone? There’s no point in trying to slow things down with a man when he’s the only one you’re dating. But if you keep dating other men, you are instantly able to take it slowly.
This becomes diagnostic of how invested he is in you. If he is putting so little effort into your dating relationship, what will happen once he gets comfortable? If he asks you to come to him and has no game plan, he is just looking to hook up. He will not respect you if you give it up too soon. This, however, is not to say that they like a tease. I myself was a victim of this until I recognized my part in this process and then I began dating and eventually married a man who treats me the way I deserve. Let go of the self defeating thoughts holding you back. I have identified the following rules to change the approach:1. How fun is it to hang out with someone who only puts themselves down? All too often, I see friends continually devastated by their dating experiences. Don’t give them your power by allowing yourself to feel bad. I see women who continually find men who, for whatever reason, never step up to treat them the way they deserve. Here’s why: NO MORE NEEDY VIBE THAT PUSHES MEN AWAY When you have all your hopes and dreams wrapped up in any one guy, it’s natural to fear losing him…and losing you.You become obsessed with every phone call, jump when he says jump, and change from the attractive, interesting woman who intrigued him into someone needy and clingy he feels pressured to check in with.SO DATE MANY MEN TO HELP YOU CHOOSE THE RIGHT ONE Dating many men at the same time is about helping you feel empowered and raising your self esteem. Rori will show you how to navigate every aspect of dating – from how to attract the right men, manage your time, and even how to explain to men why you want to keep your options open…without putting any pressure on a man or scaring him away.I’ve been dating on and off for a while now, but at the very start, after a couple of dating fails, me and my two best friends decided that I needed to follow some dating rules to keep me on track and so I decided to think some up.But I’m here to tell you that if you throw out the idea of dating one man at a time, you have a much better chance of winding up with your checklist…and more. Open yourself up to getting to know as many men as you can and, when one shows up that you really connect with, don’t make the mistake of shutting down other options right away. I’m willing to bet it will get you faster to your “one” than you ever imagined.By keeping your options open and increasing the number of men you meet and date, you increase the likelihood of meeting the man you’ve been dreaming of…rather than settling for whomever you happen to meet first. _______________________________________________________________________ If you want to learn exactly how to date many men at once in order to find your one, subscribe to Rori’s free e-newsletter.