Their first kiss was at their wedding — and not because they weren’t attracted to each other. "It was easier not to go there at all than to go there a little bit and make a list of rules and regulations of what we were not going to do," she explained."It was a necessary burden to place on ourselves because it gave us so much freedom.There was a measure of seriousness involved because couples were trying to discern marriage."With modern dating, couples date for the fun of it or for the emotional or physical draw of the relationship, but not for the purpose of discerning marriage," Weinert explained.Stephanie Wood Weinert, a Catholic mother and wife — as well as speaker, blogger and former EWTN radio host — says the terms create confusion."Everyone gets confused about the two terms — ‘dating’ and ‘courtship.’ I always tell people that it is more about the definitions than it is about the terms." Before the advent of the car, couples got to know each other in the context of their family circles, otherwise known as courting.We lived 500 miles apart, so when we saw each other, it was usually for a weekend.We spent time getting to know each other and each other’s families.
"The spouses’ union achieves the twofold end of marriage: the good of the spouses themselves and the transmission of life.
In this way, they come to recognize and freely accept their vocation to follow Christ and to serve the Kingdom of God in the married state." Dating vs.
Courtship If casual dating is not a good option, is courtship the answer?
Sarah Swafford, a speaker for Chastity Project, is an advocate for group dating and getting to know one another’s family. If you want to know what a guy is really like, see how he acts around his guy friends," she said.
"How does he act around women he’s not interested in? " That’s how she came to see that her husband, Andy, was a good guy — they spent time together when they were undergraduates at Benedictine College in Atchison, Kan., before they dated.