I hear this all the time: "There are no good men out there"; or this: "There are no good women." Usually the speaker illustrates one of the assertions with a sad or funny dating story that ends either with resignation to single status or with anger at the depressing situation he or she "has to" endure.
I listen sympathetically but don't share the conclusions. Mature singles have plenty of great people to choose from; but of course, you have to know where to look.
Be honest about who you are, about how you will be perceived, and about the kind of person who would appreciate you. Don't use a long, involved list of requirements that will narrow your choices down to four people on the entire planet. You can go to boutique online dating sites that select for people who want relationships and are so motivated that they will pay premium prices to find them.
You probably know some of the more popular ones, but there are smaller, targeted sites you might not have known to try.
The place is chock full of wonderful women, mostly over 40.
Let me tell you, the few men who attend have amazing choices.
Meet Women at Spas Men, if you are looking for a woman, go to a spa.
I speak at Rancho La Puerta in Tecate, Mexico, several times a year.
Meet at a Volunteer Gig If you're looking for someone with a big heart, go to a place where big-hearted people go: Volunteer at a children's hospital, an environmental cleanup, a Habitat for Humanity build, or a political campaign.
You're doing good works; it's fine if you do them in a few new places to meet a few new faces. But like anything, if you work hard at it, you will succeed.
Meet on Organized Trips Many college or university alumni trips that happen when families can't come—after the school year starts, during winter and spring (but not the summer)—are popular with older singles. You May Also Like: Single and Mingle online community group.
Enjoying the ambiance—great crowd, food, drinks, and music—several singles paired up and danced.
If the weather is amenable, join an outdoor sporting club.