The mantra wants disabled daters to know: I’m invoking Elsa here, but “Let it go.” I’ve met so many disabled people who think there’s no way a non-disabled person will ever be interested in them or that a non-disabled person will never truly accept them, period. You’ll also find people who don’t but those people aren’t worth your time. I've been in one serious relationship (it lasted about a year) since I began dating.I am now single and got back into it after recovering from the breakup.With a wheelchair or two coming in between our physical bodies and separating us in physical distance, cuddling and holding hands while watching a movie or riding on the bus are impossible.When I date someone, touch and affection are very important to me and these barriers make that nearly impossible.I think my favorite memories are those memories where my disabilities and access needs were really accepted and accommodated. But it’s presented as ' This non-disabled person could have gotten anyone, and they chose a disabled person.' It’s objectifying as all hell.The first time I fell in front of one of my boyfriends, I was super nervous about how he’d react. But he said “I’m sorry I didn’t catch you,” and my heart just melted. We don’t need non-disabled people to do “special” things for us, so if you’re genuinely interested in us, great!
Or the next Stephen Hawking, who has taught us more about the universe than any other human.
Her message to able-bodied people: We are not your charity case. So many memes and news stories go around about non-disabled teens taking a disabled teen to prom. But don’t act like you’re a saint for asking a disabled person out.
Unless you want to get dumped — that’s a great way to get dumped. If you relax and stop worrying so much, you’ll find people who accept you for who you are. Disability: Spastic Cerebral Palsy Job: Marketing/digital media professional, Twitter muse Her biggest dating challenge: I've been dating since I was about 22.
A topic that comes up frequently is having to answer really strange questions about having a disability, like ' Can you have sex? ' There's still such negative stereotypes about people with disabilities having relationship or being sexual in any way.
The biggest surprise of dating others with disabilities: I dated a guy with cerebral palsy for about a year.