I’m guessing they check out my profile, see my age, and probably read no further.
Even if I am within their desired range, I still don’t get much of a response.
Worse, they’re hypocritical about it, because they don’t understand why the vast majority of younger women won’t go for them.
And yet, the fastest growing segment for online dating is the 50 market. More people have computers and are aware of someone who found love online.
I initiate contact with men in an age-range of about 3 years younger up to about 8 years older than myself.
The potential matches that the site sends me are age appropriate for me, but when I look at the age-range that those men desire, (usually 35-50) I often move past them, knowing I can’t compete with women in their desired range, even though many of those men are as much as 5-8 years older than me!
I’ve noticed after my last birthday (I turned 54 in June) that the response I get on has dropped to almost nothing.
It’s as though moving from the early 50s to the mid 50s is some kind of death-knell for a dating life.
When I have emailed some of those guys, I never hear back.
More unhappy couples are getting divorced when the kids leave the house. We also know that dating online does not mean that you’re not dating men you meet in real life. If you meet a guy through friends, at the market, at a concert, great.
Having a profile on isn’t going to keep you from doing that.
I don’t mean those men any disrespect, I just want to date a guy closer to my age so that I have a longer future with him, and I don’t feel that I should have to apologize for that.
I have taken your and others’ advice about profile writing, and I have great photos, so I feel confident that the problem is not in how I present myself. It always comes out eventually and I’d hate to have to explain myself then.