So, aside from being the “bigger man” in the situation, and in spite of any feelings your guy might have towards his ex, you have to be cool so she isn’t interfering with your relationship (and yes, even unknowingly being talked about behind her back is a form of inadvertently interfering in your relationship).The best advice I can give you when dating a divorced dad is to wait a while before meeting his kids.Here are the 10 most important tips for a smooth relationship with a man who’s been divorced. When visions of your date as the assh*le husband dance through your head, just remember that divorces are rarely any different than the break-up of any other really long relationship; they’re just more expensive.You can’t imagine his ex-wife as the bitchy, nagging psychopath either.My point is, you will be the enemy for a good long while, so enjoy NOT meeting the kids for as long as possible.Speaking of kids, it’s important not to try too hard when you meet his children.
With people getting married younger (have you ever watched “16 and Pregnant”? This leads to plenty of good-looking, eligible men on the market who have a past. However, there’s often a stigma that comes with the word “divorce”.This also means you can’t jump into a “relationship” with him.In other words no making room for his toothbrush or giving him his own drawer yet.Did she make you want to throw something across the room at her oversized head? There are many women out there who find that the ex-wife isn’t always the cool and down-to-earth person they hoped she’d be.No matter how you feel about his previous squeeze, you can’t let on.Even if this guy wants to be with you for the rest of his life, his kids might not be ready for it.Also, if you and his children get along too well too fast, and then you and this guy break up, it will be devastating for the children (it’s their parents’ divorce all over again).You wouldn’t want him judging you based on your ex-boyfriend, would you? Divorced men usually have a different air about them than men who have never been married.These men are often more mature and less likely to play head games with you (which is exactly why you to date him! However, they also come with, I’ll say it again, a little extra baggage. They’re not going to be the party boy you might be used to, and they’re not always likely to put up with women who need to know their every waking moment. Speaking of going easy on him, you also need to move slowly in this relationship.Many people, men and women, assume that when someone is divorced they made a lousy spouse. Just because a man is divorced doesn’t mean he’s a bad man.As a double divorcee, I can tell you that yes, there were times I made a lousy spouse, but there were times I was the perfect wife! My mother always says, “One man’s trash is another man’s treasure,” or, more delicately, just because he wasn’t right for one woman, doesn’t mean he isn’t perfect for you!