Watch for general paranoia and suspiciousness of other people’s motives.One minute you’re having the time of your life and the next they have pulled away to the point where you’re always wondering WTF is going on.Today I want to save you from the heartbreaking experience of dating someone who will be tremendously difficult to ever get a satisfying committed relationship from.In bizarre dating and relationship behavior-land, there is the commitment-phobe.Love has taken on a “this is scary” dimension because of the potential that the other shoe could drop at any second.They might not just be untrusting of lovers, it might bleed over to other parts of their life.That way they can do the nitpick, doom, discard cycle because they can easily justify the breakup because of the other person’s “issue.” It’s all a cover for the fact that if they picked someone less flawed, they would have to admit that their string of failed relationships was actually their own fault.
What they’re really saying is “I’m feeling resistant to this” which may or may not ever change.
In an effort to avoid “getting too serious,” they compartmentalize their life.
Meeting someone’s friends and family should be a natural process as you get closer.
It’s easy to be overwhelmed with the feelings that come with hot and cold behavior— but allow yourself a second to step back and consider what’s happening in the background to make you feel so crazy.
It very well could be your own insecurities, or it could be that you’re super on edge because of the way the other person pulls the hot and cold routine.